Nice Girls Don't Get The Corner Office: Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers (Nice Girls Book)

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But this gap is not only a problem in the United States: women are less likely to hold well-paid and highly influential positions all over the world.

I used to hate negotiating ( haaaaaated it), until I realized that people are not going to come up to you and just give you what you want on a silver platter. If you keep waiting to be given what you want, you could be waiting your whole life. So you need to learn to ask for it instead. You have to be vocal about your needs, wants, expectations, and aspirations. And even then, most of the time, you’ll find resistance to your requests, which is when you need to proactively engage in negotiation if you want to try to land the best possible situation for yourself. Tells them not to dress too feminine. Apparently, if you wear a skirt, people are not going to take you seriously. Um, hon. Misogynists are not going to suddenly take me seriously if I'm wearing pants. They're not going to see me as a faceless humanoid the moment I don jeans and overlook the fact that I am female. They're going to see a woman in pants. Delivery with Standard Australia Post usually happens within 2-10 business days from time of dispatch. Please be aware that the delivery time frame may vary according to the area of delivery and due to various reasons, the delivery may take longer than the original estimated timeframe.Littered with degrading/demeaning language. But I should have clued into that when reading the title "nice girls." Telling me I need to grow up (into a woman) and put my big girl panties on but don't be too feminine about it.

All in all, work on breaking the habit of trying to bite off more than you can chew. 2. Trying to please everyone.

Nice girls don't get the corner office

Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office will make you aware of the typical mistakes that prevent women from reaching their full potential. It will help you learn how to stand your ground in a competitive environment, such as the workplace, and find the right balance between embracing your femininity and not making the wrong move in a game still ruled by men. Besides that, the fact that the heading of each mini chapter is always titled mistake # (and that goes on from mistake #1 - t0 mistake #300+) got my head fuming. It is direct yes, but also pretty arrogant. Likeability and being perceived as “nice” is an incredibly important factor for success for both men and women, but it’s simply not sufficient. Therefore, it is crucial to balance being liked with being respected and understanding the difference between the two. If you are only concerned with being nice, your need to be liked will prevent you from taking the risks of those who are usually respected, such as voicing out contrarian opinions, or putting your foot down when being taken advantage of, for example. Contrarily, if you are only concerned with being respected and don’t care at all about being nice you risk losing the support of your network and in some cases… being perceived as a selfish inflexible jerk. And there is nothing worse than becoming a jerk when being nice is just so. darn. easy. So don’t be a jerk.

I mean, have you ever had a man apologize for legitimately gaining an advantage? Neither. So, why do we? This book was exciting at first, but then turn to uncomfortable. First, It made me feel that being a Girl itself is a guilt, acting like a girl, thinking like a girl is not recommended in work place. So basically this book tell people "how to act like a man" because high positions are mostly held by man. If you "don't see a man do this, you should not do this" (!!!?!) . Second, it provide too many no right- no wrong recommend for both gender, but still emphasize only female worker often do this and that, but male co worker don't. Reading the examples I feel that all the male's thinking, behavior are perfect? This book is not show girls how to find their deserve equality in work place but tell them to follow a man model role, to copy those successful male's behavior and thinking. Don't always feel the need to help. "Because women are taught early in their lives that others must know more than they do, so knowledge and self-confidence must be gained externally. Helping others is one way capable women gain external validation for their self-worth." SO TRUE. This was by far my worst category. Women are not taught to defend ourselves or get angry when someone is disrespectful to us, teaching us to be tolerant of people who treat us like crap. The way I see it, if you’re not hearing “no” every now and then, you’re not asking for enough. Or to put it differently, if you are always hearing “yes”, you’re probably selling yourself short. So, moral of the story, don’t wait to be given what’s owed you – ask for it.

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Written by top career coach L.P.Frankel, ‘101 mistakes’ aims to guide women away from the ‘act like a girl’ stereotypes taught to them as young ladies, which according to the author they carry onto womanhood. And one of my worst categories. I hate selling myself (see my review of "Do What You Love"--it's classic ISTJ behavior, apparently), but I know that I need to become much better at it, especially during a job hunt. Stop being so patient. If you don't ask, it might not happen: promotions, etc. If told that you're being impatient, ask when a good time would be to revisit the issue. If asked to wait a long time, ask WHY such a long time is needed.

Yet there’s one thing women can change: if you’re a woman, chances are good that over time you’ve learned to unconsciously sabotage yourself. For example, you may avoid assertive behavior for fear of being labeled “bossy” or find yourself reluctant to compete because competing is “unfeminine.”

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Fearful of hearing the accusation that we are too aggressive or pushy, some women will often avoid saying things that should legitimately be said. How many times have you withheld a comment, only to avoid being perceived as too bold or audacious? Lastly, we tend to overexplain ourselves. Overexplaining can make you feel insecure and unsure, and when combined with preambles, it can completely kill your message, getting it lost in a sandwich of clutter. Ask yourself how many of the following behaviours are an obstacle to achieving more balance in your life: In the United States, Hispanic women make only 59 percent of what Hispanic men earn for the same job. And while Caucasian women fare better, they still earn only 77 percent compared to their male co-workers. Furthermore, in the first year after they finish college, female graduates already earn 8 percent less than their male peers; two decades down the line, the gap increases to 20 percent. How about we start appreciating the different skills women can bring compared to men, because it is a known fact that organisations that have a more equal balance of men and women perform better. Much of the book is also more fitted for the corporate world, of which not everybody works in, or wants to for that matter.