Why Did No One Tell Me?: How to Protect Heal and Nurture Your Body Through Motherhood

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That’s partly why the book felt such a timely thing to do. I can’t give everybody one-to-one therapy, but I can do something. I can share some basic education as widely as I can. In Why Did No One Tell Me This?! doulas and reproductive health experts Natalia Hailes and Ashley Spivak answer these questions and more for today’s wellness-focused, intersectional parents-to-be. Drawing on years of experience in their birth doula practice Brilliant Bodies, as well as expert opinions from lactation specialists, gynecologists, therapists, and more, Natalia and Ashley guide readers through the entire process, from the earliest stages of pregnancy through the jungle of postpartum feelings and responsibilities. A portion of my videos have been about trying to remind people that what they see on social media isn’t always real. To be mindful when they’re spending time with certain content of how it makes them feel and to use social media to enhance their life rather than take away from it. As a veteran reader of self-help books I look for original content and information that can be actually put to use rather than theoretical prose. This book accomplishes both of these things and there are actual tools and ideas which can be put to use by those who need some help with emotional issues. Dr. Julie has a following on social media and this book is her way of putting together advise on a variety of subjects from self-esteem, to depression to grief. I appreciated the fact that the author did not start the book with chapters of scientific studies on the brain as I have read those many times and that type of information is not useful to someone who is suffering. Each chapter has a theme and she includes ideas which are identified with a light bulb graphic and tools which are identified with a wrench graphic. I would not say any of her tools are new but they are presented in a new way which makes it valuable. Julie Smith bisa menggabungkan cerita, tips, informasi, dengan science sampai sepanjang baca gue jadi berkali-kali "oalah, nyambung toh ini dengan itu..."

The book sometimes only scratch the surface of important topics but I kind of understand that given that it is directed to the general population and it is not an academic book. Some of the chapters were very short, they felt like a summary of something larger and yet they had the bullet points summary at the end because that’s just the way the book is formatted. I think it could have been better if the summaries were at the end of each part rather than chapter with the most important things included. Positive thoughts are great, they’re not bad. But there is this sort of movement online around only positive vibes; don’t allow the negative thoughts to be there. If you have that standard for yourself, as soon as negative thoughts start to appear that you can’t control, you start to feel like you’re failing or that you’re not positive enough. That you’re not enough in general. It sets you up to feel worse. It’s about recognising that you have the power of choice. You have a choice how long you spend online, you have a choice about who you follow and who you don’t and the content you engage in. When you get into mindless scrolling, it can feel like you don’t have a choice. We hear a lot about the coronavirus - its physical symptoms, its medical dangers, the residual effects of severe infection - but we hear next to nothing about the stress of living through an ongoing pandemic. Set the virus aside for a moment. Merely enduring the day-to-day of it all has been extremely hard. The psychological strain? Crushing. And many of the remedies for psychological strain (join a gym, take a class, visit loved ones, get a hug) have been forbidden to us for great stretches of time. This is worth someone's attention, and if the government isn't going to give it any, if the media isn't going to give it any, if Dr. Fauci has his hands full, then I guess we're on our own. Mindfulness is a great skill … for building that ability to … notice your thoughts and let them pass without getting caught up in them. … If you can notice a thought for what it is – a biased guess, and label it as such, then … that is one way of holding the thought at arm’s length. Your mind can then see it as just one possible perspective. We are then in a much better position to be able to consider the alternatives. …”

The cost of therapy puts it beyond the reach of most people and there’s limited availability on the NHS. How do you square this with the increased number of people who are coming forward? Thoughts are not facts. They are guesses, stories, memories, ideas, and theories. They are … one potential explanation for the sensations you are experiencing … So what does this mean for those anxious thoughts that pop into our heads? It means the power of that thought … is in how much we buy into it. How much we believe that thought to be a true reflection of reality. The best way to break down the power that thoughts have over our emotional state is to first get some distance from them. How do we get distance from something that is inside our head? Dr. Smith's writing style is empathetic and compassionate, creating a safe space for readers to explore their emotions and vulnerabilities. The book not only provides practical tools but also promotes a deeper understanding of how our minds work. This knowledge enables readers to fortify their mental health proactively, making it an essential companion in the journey towards self-care. Full of honest advice and inclusive options, Why Did No One Tell Me This? is the funny, personality-filled guide to pregnancy, birth, and beyond that modern parents have been waiting for.

The book is a self-help one revolving around mental health and ways to cope with every day challenges. It is divided into main parts -each discussing a certain topic- with multiple chapters in each part. The chapters are short for the most part with a summary at the end of each chapter. This book is a guide for life and I liked that she included “toolkit” sections because this is exactly what I felt this book gave me - a toolkit for how to live my life in the best way possible, to navigate it confidently, with the right outlook, attitude, mindset and approach, be present, deal with things the right way for positive outcomes and really bring the best out of it. When I was offering psychological therapies, I found a lot of people didn’t realise that a part of therapy is educational. You do a lot of talking and working out your problems, but you also learn a little bit about how your mind works, how you can influence your mood and your emotional state and how then you can affect your day-to-day mental health. In Why Did No One Tell Me This? doulas and reproductive health experts Natalia Hailes and Ash Spivak answer these questions and more for today's wellness-focused, intersectional parents-to-be. Drawing on years of experience in their birth doula practice Brilliant Bodies, Natalia and Ash guide listeners through the entire process, from the earliest stages of pregnancy to the jungle of postpartum feelings and responsibilities. So therapy is often about accepting thoughts as they arrive and then making choices about what you do with them. If I spend time with these thoughts, is that going to help me move forward where I want to go? Or if I spend time with these, what impact is that having that’s different? It’s allowing your brain to come up with whatever it comes up with and then choosing what to do next.

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Isi bukunya sangat practical, karena setiap babnya selalu ada pertanyaan yg bisa dijawab, dan selalu ada tantangan-tantangan kecil yg bisa dicoba. Why haven’t women been given this sort of information so readily? Is it because of the patriarchal society that we live in, fear of putting women off having a baby or simply just a blatant oversight? Whatever the reason it’s simply not ok. Having a baby is a major life changing event and needs to be honoured and considered like this. Buku ini menyoroti tentang "naik turunnya" manusia. Yang kadang bisa good mood, kadang bisa bad mood. Yang takut keluar dari zona nyaman, yang nggak bisa nemuin motivasinya, juga manusia yang bisa capek dan kepeleset. In Why Did No One Tell Me This? doulas and reproductive health experts Natalia Hailes and Ash Spivak answer these questions and more for today's wellness-focused, intersectional parents-to-be. Drawing on years of experience in their birth doula practice Brilliant Bodies, Natalia and Ash guide readers through the entire process, from the earliest stages of pregnancy to the jungle of postpartum feelings and responsibilities.

I also felt like this book is extremely woo at times and didn't much care for that aspect of it. I felt like a good portion of the beginning of the book was useless to me for that reason. I'm sure that's helpful for some people though. The book is for anyone considering getting pregnant, pregnant, or who has had a baby. This is not ‘another’ baby book it is a book for women about their body! It is also for anyone that works closely with pregnant or new mums but isn’t as such a specialist in the field.Through it's practical structure, it allows the reader to dip in and out, with bitesize chapters focusing on a specific topic or issue. Pregnancy and childbirth are full of big questions — what if my baby is enormous? Will my water break naturally? What even goes into a ‘birth plan’? How on earth am I going to keep this child alive once it’s here? And where do I turn for advice that will really work for me and my life? Mindfulness - achieving a state of mind that prays attention to the present moment (a gym workout for the mind). The author suggests we identify our values and who we want to be and then analyze our thoughts and behaviors to see if we are going in the right direction. She also talks about identifying our emotions in more detail; instead of saying we are sad, are we really bored, anxious, frustrated? She suggests journaling and writing down our negative emotions to try to make some sense of how and why they appeared which will help us to understand them. One of the most important things to me was the idea of not stopping bad feelings but letting them flow through you while trying to identify what they are and where they came from. This is amazing advice as so many times we are told to stop negative feelings which can be impossible. People often think therapy is about changing your thoughts. Actually, you can’t decide what thoughts are going to pop into your head – it just happens. The bit you get to choose is how much air time you give each thought.