Buy the F*cking Lilies: And Other Tools to Fix Your Life, from Someone Who's Been There

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For some of us, giving ourselves pep talks is not our natural state, but Tara reminds us: If your friend were in a similar situation, would you talk to her that way? Little by little, I pulled the golden thread of gratitude out from the blanket of pain I usually wrapped myself in. The book was a great read and learned a lot from it and was able to take the advice to apply to my own personal life.

With humor and a great deal of herself laid bare, Tara shows the reader where she was in her life when she realized it wasn’t working for her. However, her language oscillates back and forth between well-crafted thoughts and internet abbreviations. I loved to read about the personal life of very successful people and how they learned to manage the balance of their personal and professional life. I wanted to say too much that wouldn’t fit in a mid-read update (so I will mentally subtract this one from my 2021 reading challenge). I’ve already been recommending it to my IRL friends :) I don’t often read self-improvement (aka self-help), but now and again I’ll come across one that really speaks to me.It’s also good to remember to live in an attitude of gratitude for what you do have instead of always wanting what you don’t have. I thought that was life: a series of problems to be tackled until you have lived another day, only to face a new disaster. So much so that any personal “improvements” really are — at the end of the day — self interested, fragile and (I strongly suspect) superficial. I originally bought it because I loved the title and I struggle with getting myself nice things because deep down, I kind of feel like I don't deserve them. When someone says they went to a really nice private school, followed by Brown University, and then flippantly states how "poor" they were, it irks me to no end.

Writing a book isn’t a personal goal of mine but this “book” shows me that anyone can publish a “book” , even if they don’t bother much with the writing part. I got an advance copy from NetGalley, so the first couple times I ran across the lowercase “rn,” I thought it was some kind of typo, which happens a lot in advanced reader copies. So, even though I’ve had ups and downs with my own mom, it made me appreciate that we do have a good, if not always easy, relationship.She has been on medication for years for depression and anxiety and while she lays out long lists of guidelines to create rituals that will better oneself, she has included notes about how it’s ok to not follow them to the letter all the time.

Before I began my path to re-parenting and healing my wounds, it never occurred to me that you could enjoy your life. I love the idea of the book, and I love the general jist and points she make however the writing was a little too creative for me at times. a white, abled, highly educated person who could afford the benefit of therapy in her twenties wants to let us know that if *she* “can be HAPPY. It should include the word "re-parent" because that's what this book is and why it'll appeal to readers.This is the audiobook Tara wished someone had given her and it is the audiobook many of us desperately need: a candid, hysterical, addictively readable, practical guide to growing up (no matter where you are in life) and learning to love yourself in a non-throw-up-in-your-mouth-it's-so-cheesy way. Today, Tara Schuster is a happy and fulfilled “self-care ninja”, and as Comedy Central's Vice President of Talent and Development, is by all outward appearances (and by her own account) living a healthy and successful life. There are a few pearls of wisdom but by the time I reached part 3, on relationships, I decided I didn’t need advice on how to not settle for just any dude slash you’re worth more than that slash don’t try to change people it just won’t work. I was expecting empowerment but I ended up disliking the author's voice - it seemed a bit self absorbed.

The most nutty thing were the unimaginably cruel voice mails her estranged mother would leave her after her parents separated and the mother took the younger sister, leaving Tara with her dad.Over the next five years, Schuster examined every facet of her life, and by consulting other self-help books and trusting the wisdom that emerged from her own journalling efforts, she was able to find her way to a form of self-love that enabled her to then shine love out into the world as well (it's really not as cheesy as that sounds). I'm even reticent to use it on my Booktube channel because people are so touchy about cursing (you should see some of the comments I get to that effect).