Ask Me His Name: Learning to live and laugh again after the loss of my baby

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But I am so grateful for the conversations this book starts- we can talk about infant loss, because sadly it happens too often and needs to be confronted. This book not only validates the grief and the avalanche of emotions that bereaved parents face, but it's also a handy guide for anyone who's brave enough to dive into the details of this journey. You'll learn valuable lessons to help your friends and/or family members who are dealing with something as harsh as a child loss. So obviously there’s going to be a huge change in gear and your mentality, and someone else who’s been through it gets that, because they feel exactly the same way. So maybe it’s time that we all acknowledge its occurrence, and try, however hard, to engage with the conversation both as people who are directly affected, and those that love and support them.

I read as a friend and also a nurse to peer into this world to better understand a situation not my own, to be more insightful and equipped to care for a loved friend in this painful landscape.There were some very relatable parts but although the author repeatedly refers to everyone grieving differently, much of the content is also quite sneering/judgmental of those who do grieve differently to her, despite her having to go through much of what she judges in others to get to the place where she can be what she views as unendingly positive (I’d query this). So giving women that confidence and pointing them in the right direction to talk to somebody who knows how they’re feeling, is incredibly important. It is written from the heart, and I’m sure will resonate with any parent who has experienced such a loss.

The 103 third parties who use cookies on this service do so for their purposes of displaying and measuring personalized ads, generating audience insights, and developing and improving products.We were all just shouting at the top of our voices into an echo chamber of women who already know how it feels. I have followed Elle for a while on Instagram and love her blog and her day to day post about general things. Because they are the charity who are out there doing exactly that: They are empowering women from the moment they find out they are pregnant to the moment they deliver that baby, to take ownership of that pregnancy and the little person that is growing inside them, and that they have the right to check. Elle Wright had an admittedly easy pregnancy, and in May 2016 she and her husband welcomed their son, Teddy, into the world. Because by this point it was into the summer, I was a year and a bit after losing Teddy, and I felt so much stronger.

When I found myself experiencing a motherhood that I never expected, one that I was terrified of living, I didn't know how I would carry on being 'normal'. People were saying ’Oh God, no one knows what to say to me’ but none of us were doing anything to change the way that conversation was happening. You know how therapeutic it is to have a really good clear out at home, and that whole ‘tidy desk, tidy mind’ thing of deciding to have a really good clear up, or whatever? But if somebody loses a child we don’t actually have a word for that; probably because it’s never really been spoken about.Ultimately this is a personal story and others who lose a child will perhaps deal with their experiences in a different way so this isn’t a ‘How to deal with grief’ book. I literally went from room to room just doing that, and taking photos of it and putting it on Instagram, not with the intention of starting a blog at all, just because I needed it for my own sanity.

A Bump In The Road reflects the reality of the journey to parenthood for thousands of people having difficulty conceiving in the U. How are you feeling’ … We talk about cancer really freely because we know it’s so common, and everybody knows the story of someone who has had cancer, and hopefully come out the other side, so we’re far more relaxed as a society to be able to talk about it and support people. I thought I knew Elle’s story really well from social media but after reading this I feel like it’s opened my eyes to so much more. To calculate the overall star rating and percentage breakdown by star, we don’t use a simple average. We would like to offer this book out for loan, we feel it is important that everyone is able to access self help books, and to be able to read about the experiences of others.Ask Me His Name is a moving account of Elle's pregnancy, Teddy's life, and what happens when a mother leaves a hospital with empty arms. Three days after delivering him into the world, she sat with Teddy as he took his last breaths, and tucked him in for the final time. It’s a story I wouldn’t wish upon my worst enemy, but Elle, Nico, their families and friends have handled it with such grace, honesty and sensitivity that we, as an audience, should consider ourselves lucky to have had our eyes opened by them. So maybe I go at it from a selfish perspective now, and think ‘Why should I have to swallow my words and my opinions so you don’t feel awkward?